Hard to Please is a LIMITATION of the BLUE personality in the Color Code Personality Assessment.

Hard to Please

"He that is hard to please, may get nothing in the end."

― Aesop

April 1, 2023
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Lisa Ulshafer
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hard to pleaseBeing hard to please can be challenging, both for yourself and for those around you. It can lead to dissatisfaction, disappointment, and missed opportunities. When you have high standards or expectations that are difficult to meet, it can be challenging to find satisfaction in your experiences and relationships. This can lead to a constant sense of frustration and discontent, as well as difficulty connecting with others or being open to new experiences.

Being hard to please can put a strain on your relationships, as others may feel like they can't meet your expectations or that they're constantly falling short. This can lead to frustration and resentment on both sides, and may make it difficult to build and maintain meaningful connections with others.

Here are some common signs that you may be hard to please:

  • Setting excessively high standards and expectations for yourself and others.

  • Frequently expressing dissatisfaction or disappointment with outcomes or results.

  • Having a critical or judgmental attitude towards others and finding faults easily.

  • Difficulty in accepting compliments or acknowledging achievements.

  • Feeling constantly dissatisfied or discontented with various aspects of life.

  • Being highly demanding and having rigid preferences or inflexibility in various situations.

  • Struggling with making decisions due to fear of making the wrong choice.

  • Engaging in frequent complaining or negative feedback towards others.

  • Being overly focused on flaws or imperfections rather than appreciating the positives.

  • Having a tendency to frequently change goals, plans, or expectations due to dissatisfaction.

Here are 9 strategies to help you overcome being hard to please:

  1. Practice gratitude. Focus on what you have rather than what you don't have, and try to appreciate the good things in your life. This can help shift your mindset away from constantly seeking perfection.

  2. Let go of control. Recognize that sometimes things won't go exactly as planned or meet your expectations, and that's okay. Practice letting go of control and being flexible.

  3. Communicate clearly. If you're hard to please because you're not clear about what you want or need, work on communicating more clearly and effectively with others. This can help you avoid frustration and disappointment.

  4. Foster empathy and understanding. Try to put yourself in other people's shoes and see things from their perspective. This can help you be more understanding and compassionate, and practice empathy towards their efforts and limitations.

  5. Practice mindfulness and self-awareness: Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors related to being hard to please. Reflect on the underlying reasons behind your high standards and expectations.

  6. Challenge your perfectionistic tendencies: Recognize that perfection is unattainable and can lead to undue stress and dissatisfaction. Learn to embrace imperfections and appreciate progress rather than focusing solely on outcomes.

  7. Practice flexibility and adaptability: Learn to be more flexible and adaptable in different situations, and be willing to compromise or adjust your expectations when necessary.

  8. Develop realistic standards and expectations: Set achievable and realistic standards for yourself and others, considering the limitations and complexities of life.

  9. Cultivate patience and tolerance: Practice patience and tolerance towards yourself and others, recognizing that mistakes and shortcomings are part of the human experience.

Ultimately, while it's important to have standards and expectations, being hard to please can be a limitation if it prevents you from finding satisfaction and growth in your life. By letting go of rigid standards and perfectionism, and embracing a more flexible and adaptive mindset, you can enjoy more harmonious interactions with others and experience greater joy and satisfaction in life. This can lead to deeper connections, improved well-being, and a more fulfilling and enriched life experience.

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